How to Propose to Your Man

The ever-evolving dynamics of relationships, weddings and marriage has opened up a world of opportunity where conformity and social propriety are no longer a couple's main concern. Most relationships are far more equal and less dependent than they were even just a few decades ago. Therefore, embrace the change and consider proposing to your man instead of putting the socially perceived responsibility on him. However, you might want to consider a few factors when venturing into this potentially new territory of proposal ideas.

Anything Goes

While most women, from an early age are introduced to the Disney, and then Hollywood, dream ideal of how to propose, this has probably not been as significant in your man's life. Perhaps they noticed it briefly in any of the romantic comedies they have seen, but did it compel them to dream about perfect proposal ideas or construct complete fantasy scenarios in their minds? It is safe to say that the answer is probably not. So, this ultimately works in your favour, as he will not have any preconceived notions of 'how it should be' and there is little chance of disappointing him. Plus, the element of surprise is it that bit easier to achieve when it is the lady doing the proposing.

Keep It Simple

Not to be sexist or anything but it is a widely regarded notion, and I think most women would agree, that men are somewhat less complicated than women. Most men would probably appreciate a more simple approach to a proposal, as opposed to a long drawn out and convoluted one that just takes forever to get to the point. Be fun, be creative and don't go too heavy on the sentimental romantic elements. Think about inviting him to join you on a lifetime of love, laughter and adventure together.

Play to his Interests

Just like you would probably hope he would do for you, play to his personality and interests and show him how well you know and love him. Make it memorable by incorporating his favourite sports, movies, hobbies or activities. Interests that you both have in common and enjoy doing together are an ideal source of perfect proposal ideas.

And a Small Word of Caution

Although you are probably both perfectly comfortable in your relationship and would not see anything wrong or strange about you proposing to your man, his friends, family, co-workers and even society in general maybe be a little slower in their acceptance of it. Therefore, it may be better not to make a big public display of the proposal. It is also important to be sure to accurately anticipate your man's feelings towards what you are about to do. You certainly don't want to leave the occasion with him feeling like you 'stole his thunder'.

By Laura L Bolick